Mt. Juliet and Lebanon, TN
Going through a divorce can seem like you are climbing the highest mountain, the most difficult challenge that is also painstaking and emotional. Throw children into the mix and you may wonder how you will manage to keep it all together around them and take care of yourself at the same time. Although every couple dealing with divorce is different, here are some tips to help you cope and survive a divorce.
Avoid trash talking your ex, especially in front of your children. You two may not see eye-to-eye, but to your children both of you are their parents and they still need you both to help take care of them. Speaking of children, focus quality time on your kids, but make certain that you set aside time for yourself. Some parents make the mistake of placing all their focus on their children, ignoring needs of their own. The truth is; you need to take time for yourself, whether it is for pampering, spending time with a close friend, or alone time. Whatever it is, take time for yourself. Most importantly, when children are involved, let go. As in, let go of hurt, bitterness, or anger towards your ex. These feelings add no value to your new life or your kids’ lives.
Be sure to allow yourself time to mourn. Divorce can seem like death. In fact, it is the death of your marriage. Allowing time to heal, while conducting yourself in a manner for which you can be proud of later, is good for you when dealing with your emotions. Remember to conduct yourself in a respectable manner both in your private life and especially in court. Keep those snarky comments or angry outbursts to yourself during court. You can always rant about your frustrations to your friends. Keep good friends close, they will be your voice of reason at times or lend an ear when you need to vent or even cry out your emotions. Plus, a true friend will be the one to offer you honest, straight-forward advice when you need it.
When it comes to the legal battle, let your attorney do their job. Do not expect to get anything out of your divorce that you did not receive during your marriage. Pick your battles, because some things are not worth fighting over. For instance, do not expect your ex to bend over backwards for you now if it never happened before.
Surviving divorce may seem impossible at the beginning or even halfway through the process, but remembering these tips can help you better deal with your emotions and the entire process. Do not hesitate to lean on friends or family, accept their support and encouragement, and most of all, believe in yourself. Believe that you will make it through this and take baby steps towards allowing yourself to trust again. You know you deserve better a better life, do not allow yourself to settle for any less than you deserve.
For a free consultation regarding divorce or family law, contact Yancy Belcher, Attorny at Law. We understand divorce can be a difficult and challenging process and are here to help. We welcome clients from Mt. Juliet, Hermitage, and Lebanon, TN.